Years ago I had a hard time saying no. I often wandered around without direction and I ran from my problems. I allowed hurtful people and bad influences in my life. And I didn’t have a plan for my future.

Then I learned one simple trick that changed everything–Staying true to what I value.

I made a list of my values:

  • Family and Friends
  • Having a career–passion and purpose
  • Health and Fitness–getting enough sleep, eating right, exercising regularly, maintaining my mental health
  • Having time and money for my hobbies– traveling, painting, reading, learning, decorating, exercising…

Then I made a list of things I was doing that didn’t fit in with my values:

  • Watching hours of TV
  • Hanging out in clubs and bars with the wrong people
  • Spending money I didn’t have, increasing my credit card debt
  • Not exercising, eating right, or getting enough sleep
  • Ignoring future career goals
  • Avoiding my family and true friends

Though challenging, I made the decision to always say “yes” to everything on my values list, and “no” to everything that didn’t fit in with my values.

You probably already know what happened… Yup! My life changed and I’ve never looked back. 🙂


This is one of the tricks from my short booklet, 2 Days to Healthy Self-Esteem

25 thoughts on “Values

  1. I liked this so much I just bought three of your books (Kindle versions). If I like them I’ll probably buy the rest of your books. I’m really enjoying your posts. Your blog will be one that I read regularly rather than filing “until I have time.” 🙂


  2. Another inspirational post, and well done to you.
    I used ‘value’ as my post which I think threw a few of my regulars because I’m writing my posts on the theme of writing.


  3. It’s always great to change for the better. Suddenly, I realize how wise it would be to think of the saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” This time, it’s “If you can’t change for the better, then don’t change at all.” Change that does not create anything positive is senseless and useless.


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