Drowning in a Relationship

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In the past, I’ve had relationships where I felt like I was drowning. I wrote this years ago and it fits with all sorts of relationships: mother/daughter, father/son, sister/sister, friendships, and so on…

You and I are in a lake.

I can swim, but you can’t.

You find a way to get close enough to me so you can use me to keep afloat.

You’re holding onto me and forcing me down into the water.

I’m scared of drowning, so I keep pushing you away.

The more I push the more you cling to me forcing me back under the water.

I start to panic.

I cling back to you, so I can catch my breath.

And then I push you away again.

I know that if we could both swim separately we would be okay.

I also know that helping you keep afloat, isn’t helping you at all, it’s hurting me. And you’re not learning your own independence.

If I push you away and you learn to swim or even float, you will stop being so needy and clingy.

And if we both make it to shore because I carried your weight, or you figured out how to float, you may think I should stay with you.

But maybe I need some space, rehabilitation and time to catch my breath because maybe this time, I’ve come too close to drowning.

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THIS “DROWNING” ALSO REMINDS ME OF MY CHILDREN’S BOOK  – BLUE THE BIRD ON FLYING – Good for adults too 🙂

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