Face the #Problem so…

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Today’s Challenge: Face the problem so you don’t add to it.

I went to lunch with a friend yesterday and I shared with her that I had been struggling with a couple of businesses that had let me down. I also let her know that I was now in a much better place because I had finally faced my problems.

I didn’t want the trouble and heartache of confrontation, so I continued to believe that I could ignore the problems, or send very nice emails once a month confronting the issues and the problems would simply be resolved. By taking this approach, my troubles grew, my stress grew, and before long I had nothing but sleepless nights. I now know that if I’m not sleeping at night, I’ve waited much too long to face the problem. Aren’t our bodies amazing? My body was telling me, “Confronting the issue is long overdue. It’s time!” When both businesses started to ignore me in hopes I’d go away (my same strategy), I took the next step and went to Better Business Bureau. The first business took action and we resolved the problem quickly and painlessly. Amazing! AMAZING! The second business (A book distributor who has not only continued to list my books and my name on their website, they have continued to sell my eBooks without paying me–two years after our contract ended) used the strategy of ignoring me and BBB, so now the Attorney General in that state is taking a look.

I spent so much time feeling upset and frustrated by these businesses. I was the one having sleepless nights, not them. And I didn’t do anything wrong (other than waiting, hoping, instead of taking action sooner). It’s ironic. But now, I’m sleeping fine and I will stay on top of this until we have a resolution. The sleepless nights should be on them, not me.

I have to repeat the daily challenge, face the problem so you don’t add to it, and sometimes waiting and hoping and ignoring is adding to the problem. Learn from my mistake… 🙂

Years ago, I created the app “I’m Upset!” The last part of this app, the “Quick Check In” says this:

Ask yourself these question:

  • Am I upset?
  • Why am I upset?
  • What can I do about it?
  • Is it out of my control?
  • Is it really important?
  • Should I let it go or do I need to confront the issue?
  • Why am I feeling so powerless?
  • How can I take responsibility for this, so I can get my power back?

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Clearly, I needed to take my own advice instead of dragging my feet… But at least I’m facing it now and it feels great to take my power back! 🙂

 

 

Know When It’s Time To…

Today’s Challenge: Know when it’s time to let go.

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On my walk with my pug I noticed this tree. All the leaves were gone except these two beautiful red-orange leaves still hanging on… It made me think about life and all the ways we hold on tight even when, especially when, it’s time to let go. We hold on to anger. We hold onto relationships that won’t work. We hold onto things in our homes, garages and closets that clutter up our lives. We hold on to beliefs about ourselves and others. We try to hold onto our youth and some dreams that need a little tweaking. We forget that it’s ok to let go. Nature has run it’s course and it’s time for the next season.

What are some of the other ways we hold on, when it’s probably time to let go?

What would you like to let go?

Don’t Go On a #Diet…

Today’s Challenge: Don’t go on a #diet, instead, eat a little less and move a little more.

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A month ago, during my yearly physical, I discovered that I had gained five pounds. I knew my clothes were a little tighter, but I didn’t realize I had gained that much. Though surprised, I didn’t panic. And I didn’t make the terrible decision to go on a diet. Instead, I simply took my own advice and easily started to drop the extra few pounds. It’s been a month and I’ve lost three pounds–I still have two to go. I like the calm, easy approach to dropping weight: Liking myself as I am, not making drastic changes in my diet or starving myself, eating everything I love (but less of it), and moving a little more. I’ll keep you posted… and if you’re interested in learning more about my short easy booklet on staying, or getting, thin you can check it out here.