Love, Romance and Relationships: Not Knowing Your Strength

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If you are unhappy and your unhappiness stems from your relationship, it is important to realize your own strength.

You have power over your life and over your happiness. It is not entirely his fault… it never is.

You have all the strength you need to change the situation. You have choices… You have the strength to walk away and start a new life… You have the strength to change your own behavior to improve your situation… You have the strength to do what you need to do…

You can make your life right and find your happiness again. It is up to you.

Ask yourself this:

What do I want?

What do I need to do to make that happen?

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Running and Avoiding

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“No matter where you go, there you are.”

Love this quote. I’ve spent much of my life running to get away from my fears, problems and some people–After jumping on a Greyhound bus with absolutely no idea where I was going or when I would get off the bus, I ended up on the beach in North Carolina, Atlantic Beach. I rented a house and stayed for one month… I wrote. That’s when I realized I had to stop running, I had to face my life.

I got back on the bus, went back to where I came from (Minnesota) and began my new life. My whole world changed for the better. I stopped hiding, running, avoiding and started living. 🙂

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Zénó Vernyik Review of The Gentlemen’s Club

The Gentlemen's Club - book cover  The Gentlemen’s Club: A Story for All WomenBy Becky Due
    Review by: Zénó Vernyik
The black front cover of this average-sized book is dominated    by a strange drawing of white, grey and red, but predominantly    the first of these colors. It features a strangely telling composition:    a woman nailed to a man, as if she were crucified. Shocking as    it may seem to some, or even sacrilegous, part of the reason    behind its powerfulness is the reference to one of the primary    myths of Christianity: the act of self-sacrifice.In this picture, it is a woman who is crucified, or rather    Woman, as such. The cross, at the same time, becomes exchanged    for Man, that is, it is no longer a symbol of the axis mundi,    the World Tree, on which she is crucified, but Man. Women are    suffering by and for men; they are crucified on, by, but also    for them.

Another crucial point can be that Man who stands in for the    crucifix is just as powerless as Woman. This is exemplified by    the fact that neither one of the two figures is veiled. Our savior,    here, is exposed and powerless, but the case of the living crucifix    is not much better. Neither one of the two figures is in the    position to cover himself/herself. The only way they could perform    that action would be made possible if, and only if, the crucifix    stopped being a crucifix, and permitted movement for her.

The bonding function of the nail also works in both ways:    Man is just as inseperably bound to Woman, as it is true the    other way around. Furthermore, the calm and peaceful facial expression    also suggests an air of comfort and happiness, something that    can be or should be achieved through the unity of man and woman    that this visual metaphor may also skillfully represent.

This complex icon that the book features tells much of what    this book sets as its goal: a thorough, painful and direct analysis    of all the possible kinds of relationships that are existing    in contemporary bourgeois society. The handling of the topic    is similar to the treatment of an ulcer by the surgeon: precise,    uncompromising and cutting right to the hidden core. And the    expertise of the venture is no less professional than the means.    This text is visibly and evidently informed both by personal    experiences and recollections, and thorough sociological research    in the subject matter.

What is this book then? A testimony, an analysis, a therapeutic    vehicle. But also, first and foremost, a story, and a very good    one at it. The storyline is captivating, the text practically    reads itself. Basically, it is impossible to put this book down.    Those who found Alexandra’s Project by Rolf de Heer    too didactic, might find this one, just as well overdidactic,    but let me make clear I am not one of those people, and I found    their position fundamentally mistaken. There are issues that    must be tackled openly, honestly and bravely, and directly. Just    that, does not make a venture didactical, or even worse, political    propaganda. Text (book) or subject (person), one cannot leave    her ideological captation behind, and should not attempt to behave    as if it were so. What makes this venture particularly honest    and successful is its acceptance of its ideological position    and its self-criticism.

Needless to say, this is definitely not a book for those who    wish to find a decorous escape from reality. There is no idealization    or compromise in its portrayal of what forms a man-woman “relationship”     can take. Be prepared: this book is about rape, both statutory    and not, it is about prostitution and about violence both in    the family and outside of it. There is suicide and murder, suffering    and torture. But for those willing to take this journey, it is    definitely worth it: it is empowering and gives a lot of hope.

I am not saying that this work is perfect and faultless. There    is no such work, of course. Mainly in the second part of the    book, it tends to overuse the rather simplistic formula of “Rebecca    asked,” “I said,” or “Julie added.”     Dialog becomes a bit mechanical and unnatural because of this.

Also, the ghost of compulsory heterosexuality seems to linger    among the lines and perhaps also a slight hint of hostility towards    others, but it seems to be a minor issue compared to the book’s    enormous achievements.

This book is a must-read for those who read and enjoyed Dawn    Lyons’ The Dry Well, as well as for anyone who is    willing to take the troubling journey into the lives of many    women who were raped, forced into prostitution or tortured in    any other way. It is also a book for those who like powerful    storytelling and vivid descriptions, and do not get scared by    some “extra message.”

A percentage of the book’s profits will be used to support    the cause of the prevention of domestic violence and sexual assaults.

Life Lessons: Focus on the Good Today

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It’s so easy to think about all the bad in our lives

But how about

Just for today

Let’s think about everything good in our lives

Let’s think about why we are lucky

The wonderful memories we have

The great love we’ve experienced

Let’s shift our thoughts

Count our blessings

and focus on the good in our lives if only for today

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The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love Reviews

I wanted to share a few good reviews… 🙂

5.0 out of 5 stars LOVED THIS STORY!,

By MsJuliaT – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

I stayed up until two in the morning reading this book! It was incredibly fun and entertaining, a must have for anyone interested in lighthearted romance. At one point in the book, I laughed so hard, I had tears in my eyes and really had to stop myself so I could continue reading! Unfortunately, I had lost my place, read the same passage over again and started laughing all over again! I absolutely loved the ending, I love it when stories have this kind of romantic and happy ending. I love crying at a wonderfully happy ending. When something I am reading makes me cry out of happiness, it is awesome! I loved the style of her writing, will be looking for more of her books, for sure, and would recommend this author to anyone! Fantastic!

 

4.0 out of 5 stars Cute and sassy,

By Laura – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

The Dumpster is a fun read that keeps you entertained from start to finish. It’s about a girl named Nicole who is just looking for love. However she doesn’t quite know it yet and keeps jumping into the arms of the worst guys out there. She is used and turned out unceremoniously by these guys. The cake topper is the guy who gave her a dvd player with a recorded “dear john” message. The story revolves around Nicole, her friends and this dumpster that was placed below her window. Popping in from time to time is her mother who is in the midst of a midlife crisis which adds to the amusement of the story. Nicole is a fun main character and you find yourself cheering for her on every page.

 

5.0 out of 5 stars Loved It,

By Jennifer S (Ball Ground, GA United States) – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

“The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love” by Becky Due is a book that will have its readers dancing through an array of emotions while wearing a smile. Nicole is a young woman in her twenties. Like so many women in their twenties, she is looking for love. She is a fun character with a great personality. She will feel like your new best friend before you finish the book. She represents what so many of us went through looking for our “perfect” guy. Those that are still searching will relate too. It is so hard to find good guys and we will sigh with Nicole as she keeps meeting the wrong ones. We have all dealt with those guys that were SO wrong. Read this book with a friend and it will surely inspire hours of reliving your own dating disasters. In the end, you will be smiling as Nicole ends up with what she wants.

 

5.0 out of 5 stars A Fun Romantic Tale, By Pat M “Pat’s Review” (Raleigh, NC) – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

Becky Due may have just become one of my favorite new authors. This book is so much fun to read and was just what I needed after a stressful week. Becky Due is in search of love, she wants to change her life. We have all been there, searching the slim pickings of the dating pool, so wanting to find Mr. Right, but he seems to be lost forever. You will thoroughly enjoy this book. It has humor, romance and even has you flipping through pages quickly at one point. I smiled. I laughed. I cheered when she found what she was looking to find. It is a great read and a story you can’t help but relate to.

 

5.0 out of 5 stars Very Good Book,

By Mshell09 – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

Becky Due has done it again, The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search For Love is a very entertaining and touching book. We are invited into the life Nicole as she searches for love, during her journey we are introduced to a few of the guys she meets along the way. And when she finally meets the guy that is perfect for her I felt as happy as she did that she finally found Mr. Right.

This is a very humorous and touching book about one woman’s search for love and the mistakes she has made along the way. Becky Due has become one of my favorite authors to read and I recommend this book to anyone who is looking for an entertaining escape.

 

4.0 out of 5 stars Bucket of rubbish to smell like a rose?, By M. Stanhope “Defining normal…” (Chesapeake, VA) – See all my reviews

(REAL NAME)    This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

I loved this up to date fairy tale love story. When it comes to dating and falling for the wrong guy Nicole had it down pat and was well on her way in going through them. It was a good thing she had girlfriends to get her through because she could pick the winners. Once she gave it happened. Isn’t that the way is usually works? Smells were coming from outside the window and they were not pleasant. But like they say sometimes you have to smell something bad before you can see something good. Pick up this cute book called “The Dumpster – One Woman’s Search for Love” by Becky Due for a quick laugh. I did.

 

4.0 out of 5 stars Sounded like my Sister,

By Jaime S (South, USA) – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

As soon as I started reading this I wanted to call my sister and tell her they finally wrote about her and it is in print. “The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love” by Becky Due is everything my sister does and says. I just wish she had a dumpster outside her window. The story was light and cute and made me laugh out loud and that is something I enjoy. This is a fun book for a plane trip. You do not have to think and you can enjoy the story. She has a strong support system and they are her friends that get her through it all. As in any group of men, there is the good, the bad, and the ugly and Nicole is trying them all on for size. You will enjoy this one and will pass it to a friend.

 

4.0 out of 5 stars Very cute read!,

By Robin G “Irish bookworm” (TN) – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

Becky Due has created a gem of a story in “The Dumpster!” From her unconventional title to her unconventional characters, Due weaves a very cute romantic tale. Nicole has the wrong idea about love. She is clingy and needy and has no idea what she really needs. After her last relationship ends by DVD, Nicole decides to re-evaluate the way she looks at relationships.

Love really does happen when you least expect it, and Nicole’s story is no exception. As she is trying to make sense of her romantic life, she is also battling with her building manager over the smelly dumpster that has been placed right under her window. Blessings are often in disguise, and the dumpster turns out to be one of the best blessings of Nicole’s life.

Due’s story is wonderfully pleasant and was such a quick read. The only down side? It was short! I would have loved to have read more. I will definitely be looking for more of her work and look forward to meeting more of Becky Due’s characters.

 

4.0 out of 5 stars Romance with a modern edge and a dash of humor…,

By GR – See all my reviews This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

Romance oriented novels can be a dime a dozen, but not so in this comical find. “The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love” by Becky Due aims to take a crack at the traditional love story or romance novel and give it a modern edge with a smart dash of humor. With a personable main character and girlfriends with attitude, it’s not hard to put yourself in her shoes and tag along for the ride. Though Nicole steals the spotlight, her friends are no shrinking violets. Roxanne is the friend all girls wish for in some capacity…one that stands by you no matter the situation. Renee will tell it like it is…the speaker of truths not necessarily wanting to be spoken. Really with this bunch, it’s hard not to laugh and smile even through the bad romantic experiences that seem to plague Nicole.

 

In short, you’ll laugh, you’ll smile, you’ll want to act out a certain country song on the guy that treats Nicole badly…but it’s worth each pitfall along the way. A great read for female readers and their best girl friends….

 

4.0 out of 5 stars The unsung female lead gets a voice…,

By G. Reba (Panama City, FL) – See all my reviews

(REAL NAME)    This review is from: The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love (Perfect Paperback)

“The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love” by Becky Due gives life to the often unsung female lead that is all too often cast as the “best friend”. Nicole isn’t perfect but in reality (or fiction) who is? She knows what she has going for her and what may be able to change one day but she doesn’t let it define her…she makes her own definition. Preparing for a valentine’s Day not to be forgotten, it quickly becomes one she’d rather forget. Will this be the end of her romantic aspirations? I don’t THINK so…but what happens next is certainly an eye opening experience to say the least.

Nicole is a sweetheart; you can’t help but find aspects of yourself or your close friends in her. As for the story itself…it’s sweet, it’s sassy and it’s a great way to see just what happens when you kiss enough frogs…sometimes you get a prince. Recommended read for older teens (at the youngest) through adult as the content can get a touch dicey but nothing to overtly concern oneself over.

Becky Due’s Monthly Book-Package Giveaway

Monthly Book-Package Giveaway

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The first week of every month, we will announce the winner of the Monthly Book-Package Giveaway. To enter, simply post a comment (on this blog) or “Like” Becky Due’s Facebook page.

What you will win ($60.75 Value):

The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love is a Contemporary Romance Novel set in Miami, Florida about Nicole, a cute, chubby, twenty-something woman, who is looking for love in all the wrong places. Who would have guessed that a dumpster in the back alley below her bedroom window would hold the key to finding love?

With Jack away on business, Rebecca’s looking forward to four days alone to work on her new client’s PR campaign to help women take back their lives. But her past intrudes. Roy, the man who stalked and assaulted her years before, has been released from prison. Home alone in her big, beautiful house out in the country, Rebecca has to learn to take back her own life while facing her fears and regaining her strength. But will she be strong enough when she faces the ultimate test?

This story is about a young woman who hasn’t treated her body like the temple it is—she wasn’t careful with sex or her lifestyle choices—and feared she had contracted HIV. That fear causes her to avoid love, but she learns to love herself. Love will always conquer fear and Christy has much to fear. When she enters the lives of two men, they teach her everything she needs to know about love. But, while dealing with her past issues and trying to treat her body like the temple it is, she teaches them a thing or two in return.

Angie doesn’t want to be a victim anymore. Deep down what she hopes for most is to find a good man to love and to feel safe in this world, but her fears take her down the wrong path. After befriending other women down on their luck, they decide to get revenge on men who go to strip clubs.

Blue the Bird does not want to fly. Follow Blue’s journey of self-discovery. Blue the Bird is a lesson on self-esteem and independence. Great for small children, teenagers with a false sense of entitlement, and adults who need a boost.

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Women Going Forward: About The Books


Traveling for Love: Searching for Self, Hoping for Love When her husband tells her, he wants a divorce, Amanda realizes she no longer knows who she is – her life revolved around her husband. At forty, she finds herself divorced, childless, living in an apartment with a roommate, with little education and no career path. Can Amanda find love again? Will she find the career of her dreams? Can she heal her pain? Will Amanda realize she deserves to be happy?

The Dumpster: One Woman’s Search for Love is a Contemporary Romance Novel set in Miami, Florida about Nicole, an average American woman who is looking for love in all the wrong places. Will Nicole stop falling in love with every man she meets? Will she stop letting men use her? Will she find the answers to her love-life problems?

In Returning Injury: A Suspense Celebrating Women’s Strength, Rebecca is happily married, loves her career, but she has one lingering problem—she has a stalker and feels like she’s going crazy. Will she learn to stop living in fear? Can she get her sanity back? How will she protect herself?

Touchable Love: An Untraditional Love Story is about a woman who avoids love and relationships because she hasn’t respected her body—she hasn’t been careful with her choices and fears she has contracted HIV. Will Christy face her past and her anxiety about her future? Will she let somebody love her?

Becky Dues Books, The Gentlemen's ClubIn The Gentlemen’s Club: A Story for All Women, Angie doesn’t want to be a victim anymore. Deep down what she hopes for most is to find a good man to love and to feel safe in this world, but her fears take her down the wrong path. After befriending other women down on their luck, Angie and her friends decide to get revenge on men who go to strip clubs. Can Angie let go of her pain and escape the Cycle of Abuse?

Who has time for endless analysis, exercises, journaling, workbooks and affirmations? This easy-to-follow 15-page booklet will quickly boost your self-esteem, so you can get on with your busy life–empowered!

Benefits of 2 Days to Healthy Self-Esteem – Know who you are at your core.- Realize the power you have over your life and avoid self-destructive behavior.- Have more confidence in everything you do.- Have healthy relationships with mutual love and respect.- Cope better with life’s difficulties.- Have more energy and ambition.- Fear less and trust more in others, but especially in yourself.- Discover how to love yourself.

Becky Due, Blue the BirdChildren’s Book, Blue the Bird on Flying, is about a Bird that doesn’t want to fly. You’ll follow Blue’s journey of self-discovery. Blue the Bird is a lesson on self-esteem and independence.


All of Becky’s Books are Available on Kindle

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